It is a word that we hear so often these days.
We all know the importance of taking care of our wellbeing and the wellbeing of those around us - both adults and children - and yet...it seems to be something that a lot of people seem to still struggle with today.
Life is busy. People, in general, live in scarcity - not enough time, not enough money, not getting enough sleep etc. Our mind is so busy and full of everything we think we should be doing and this all creates a level of stress that takes a considerable toll on our bodies - big and little humans alike.
I think as a general population, we underestimate the effect that stress has on our bodies and those of our little humans.
However, I also do think that we are becoming a lot more mindful as well. It is a journey that I am noticing more and more people are on.
As the year kicks on though, the stress creeps in and some of us find being mindful more...
When it comes to our mindset, we have probably heard heaps of motivational quotes designed to inspire us to change and become more positive in our thinking. Over the years, I have read these quotes and thought..."Yes! I am going to do that!' or 'I really love this quote but the reality is....(insert excuse here)'
Is mindset really that important?
Do we actually need to be conscious of our self-talk?
Is there any point to teaching our little humans how to do it?
What has to happen for a change in mindset to actually stick?
The bottom line is - we want to be happy and live a happy life. We only get one chance to do it right.
And yet...we still move through our days with frustration or stress or overwhelm. I spent most of my life in overwhelm, which led to stress and frustration. I wasn't...
I have a confession.
Sometimes I find I spend too much time avoiding what I know I need to do, to get our message out to the world.
What has been getting in the way? Old patterns of fear.
I assumed once you had worked through all those old patterns of thinking and behaviour, that they would be gone for good! But nope! I am discovering more and more about how very human we all are and how, while we can be working on ourselves to be better and change our patterns, that things can pop up in our life that trigger old habits and patterns.
And that's exactly what happened a few weeks ago. The old patterns that popped up were - old habits of procrastination, self-doubt and fear. It sounds crazy, but it's true. I have to own it and acknowledge them in order to move forward and also, because I do not want to be in pain anymore....and that's what was happening.
I know for a fact that most people are always wanting to...
How often do you say or hear someone say -
I will celebrate when I have completed this... project, job, goal...etc
(You can insert anything you might be working on or towards here!)
Now, I personally do love a good celebration but I know that I have said this phrase many times over the years and the problem I started noticing was....I wasn't getting to celebrate very often!
I know this sounds like I wasn't getting jobs completed or goals achieved - which is true in some instances but not in others.
The problem is...I think it is human nature to 'save' our celebrations for what we consider 'the big things' or 'big milestones' - which is great, don't get me wrong! They are absolutely worth celebrating.
Over the course of the last couple of years, I have learned,...
So here we are....heading towards the end of 2019. The year is quickly coming to an end. This is often the time when we start to wonder where the year went and we set renewed intentions, renewed goals, renewed visions and plans.
So how do we do that if we have not let go of stuff that has happened this year?
We (unfortunately), cannot control a lot of things that pop up in our lives BUT we can control our reactions and responses to them and how long we hold onto them for!
We all have situations and people in our lives that frustrate us and annoy us and hurt us and so often we spend so much time and energy focusing on that and feeling horrible. We all know that where focus goes, energy flows so why do we spend so much of our time focusing on the people or situations that affect us in a negative way?
I don't know either! But what I do know is I...
This quote was given to me during the last week. It followed on from a discussion about being resilient. There have been a few things that have popped up for me over the last few weeks and it was brought to my attention that perhaps I was not as resilient as I thought I was!
The definition of resilience is the ability to bounce back from a difficulty or challenge.
So, what I discovered about myself was: I do actually have some resilience, as I have the ability to bounce back in a reasonable amount of time....except...I do not have a lot of resilience in the moment itself when things are not going the way I expected in my mind!
I should say at this point, these moments very rarely happen when I am work! The unexpected has happened enough times at work that they are easy to manoeuvre through. It is at home that the moments happen more...
The fear of imperfection. The fear of never being good enough.
Over the last couple of years, I have learned that every single person on the entire planet suffers from this. Everyone. It impacts different areas of our lives and shows up differently for different people, but everyone feels it.
The question I want to ask is: WHY?
Why do we feel like we are not good enough? What is the reason we think this? What has happened in our life that we think this thought is justifiable in any way, shape or form?
It is only coming from two sources: ourselves and our own thoughts or other people and society
Here is the thing about it all:
If WE are telling ourselves we are not good enough - it is just all made up anyway! Our mind is designed to keep us safe and it does that by responding to our fear and uncertainty. So it tells us we are not good enough because that way - we...
I have always said I am an easy going kind of person.
I think my strengths are that I like people, I love to talk, ask questions, get to know others. I believe I am easy to get along with.
I like to think that I am not easily phased when things go wrong or don't go according to my plan or the plan I had in my head. For this, I would have used the word flexible...but I have been wondering lately...how flexible I really am!
Here is what I know for certain:
Every person on the planet likes to be appreciated and know that they are appreciated.
And yet...there are so many people who feel unappreciated?
A person's greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.
It doesn't take a lot and I personally believe, most people don't need the big party or public accolades. Sometimes it is the smaller moments of appreciation that feel the most genuine and real.
I received a certificate this week for a nomination I received a couple of months back. The thought that someone within my school community had taken the time to nominate me was enough to feel appreciated.
I think while we often talk about how we appreciate things or people, we do not acknowledge it enough. Showing gratitude and appreciation is one of the simplest and most powerful things we can do for each other as humans.
Everyone wants to be appreciated.
So if you appreciate someone - don't keep it a secret. Do...
'Why does this keeps happening to me?'
Ever heard anyone say that? Have you ever said it?
Do you sometimes find that life has this way of repeating itself, the situations you find yourself in, the conversations you have? Do you sometimes find that there are certain people that rub you the wrong way or who you just feel completely frustrated by and they just keep showing up in your life?
Yeah, life is funny like that. I used to wonder why the same issues would arise in different parts of life. Just when I had thought I had things all figured out, it would show up again!
And then I learned something....sometimes in life, a situation will keep repeating itself until you really learn the lesson you are supposed to learn. Those same people keep showing up until we learn what we are supposed to learn from them, the same situations appear until we learn the lesson of how to approach things differently or think differently.
The problem most of us have in life is we don't pay...
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